I can’t remember who first said to me “you have two ears and one mouth, and you should use them in that proportion” but it is one of the best pieces of advice I have ever received. Also, when working in many organisations, I notice it is not applied that widely. Shawn and I have come across two examples earlier this year where ‘listeners’ were let go and noisy and opinionated people were never considered to be candidates for retrenchment because of their ‘visible contribution’ to the organisation (it was probably more their ‘audible contribution’). These sorts of decisions further undermine an organisation’s capability to make progress with complex problems.
Listening has a vital role in tackling complex problems, such as any change initiative, either social or organisational. We use our Narrative Insight (story listening) techniques to explore and help make sense of the patterns relating to these complex issues. The following excerpt from The McKinsey Quarterly emphasizes why we should put more effort into listening and less into telling:
The lesson is clear – you need to listen to and act on the needs and perspectives of the stakeholders. Even if you don’t like what they are saying. People value what they have a sense of ownership in and you need to listen to find out what that is. And where there is anger, resentment etc around an issue I have found the advice of Professor Brenda Dervin to be spot on..”anger dissipates when people are listened to”.
If you happen to know of the original research referred to in the McKinsey article we would love to hear about it.
Reference: 1. The McKinsey Quarterly 2009 Number 2, pages 101-109